Ladies– Can we talk? We’ve all heard the expression “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus.” Many of us will attest to this viewpoint given sentiments like: “We’re just so different;” “He just doesn’t listen to me;” and “I don’t ask for much; just do what you say you’re going to do.” Sound familiar? Does to me. However, what if we’re not from different planets? What if your partner was actually listening to you when you were expressing your feelings? “How can that be?” you ask. Perhaps, he or she was just “in the moment.”🤔
I’ve had these types of discussions in my own relationships. I’d get so frustrated with my partner because I thought he was not listening to me; that he wasn’t hearing me. Yet, time and again, he would adamantly proclaim that he was, in fact, listening to me. It’s just that he had heard something different than what I had communicated. What is this phenomenon?
Over time, I began to realize that he and I processed very differently and, in turn, communicated very differently. It became our task to try to listen from each other’s perspective and respond accordingly.
This is no easy task. It’s a journey! But if we love each other and we trust that we have each other’s best interest at heart, it’s worth the effort.
Now, I am not suggesting that our partners get a pass just because they love us; Or that they don’t have to practice the art of active listening; Or even that they’re always being completely honest about what they think they heard and such. I’m simply suggesting that when you find yourselves seemingly on separate pages for no apparent reason; when it seems that you’re saying one thing and he or she is hearing another; or that he or she said one thing you heard another, that, perhaps, it’s not so much that your partner isn’t listening to you or that he or she is BSing you, but, rather, that he or she is in the moment. So, if the love and trust are in tact in the relationship, cut your partner some slack, work on the communication, and enjoy the journey! Tune to Awemediaco.com/AWE Radio to “relationship” music like “Stay,” and “For the Rest of All Time,” from the AWE biopic. Check the Broadcast Schedule on the website site for additional airtimes and other programming.